Earlier today I was walking on a pedestrian path, passing people walking dogs, kids in strollers, families on bikes.
A little weiner dog was running towards me, and someone shouted it was running away (I thought it might be a well trained dog owned by the girl running near it), so I scooped him up.
The man who owned it was a baseball throw’s walk away, slowing walking towards me (red flag one: who wouldn’t run after their dog?).
He was pissed off (red flag two: who wouldn’t be relieved his dog’s safe?).
I asked if it was his, and shouted “Of course!” (red flag three: wouldn’t you say thanks?)
I handed the dog to him, and he said “Don’t worry, the beating this dog’s going to get, he won’t be running away again.”
I stopped walking and just looked at him.
It was like looking at an alien.
For a second I thought about taking the dog back.
I haven’t had someone that toxic in my life in a long time.
Here’s how a happy person responds to someone finding their dog: take everything he did, and invert it.
I’ve had toxic people in my life before, and I finally realized why they’re the way they are: they’re weak.
When you have to take the pain you feel and point it at strangers, innocent animals, family and friends (other people who are weak): the simple truth is you’re weak.
When you have the strength to feel frustration and don’t have to aim it other people, you realize how childish most ‘grown-ups’ are, and it becomes
difficult impossible to keep people in your life who aim their pain at you.
That’s what weakness is.
For my money, that’s what evil is:
When you hurt other people because of your weakness.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
Here’s the problem: when you aim that anger at other people, it doesn’t leave you.
The anger can only leave if you get past it yourself.
That’s why I said ‘aim‘ the hate.
Because it doesn’t leave, it just gets spread to other people.
That’s why abused kids usually become abusive parents.
Most of them don’t think “I know how much pain I was in when my parents beat me, and I absolutely will not put aim that pain at my children.” They just think “GODDAMN IT” and aim their pain at their kids.
“It is said that one day the Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake!”
The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man, “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?”
The young man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.”
The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.” – Fake Buddha Quote
I should have kicked his ass and kept his dog,